lqb2weekly #162 (21 nov 2021)

hey,

it’s only been 11 days since the last lqb2weekly! slowly inching my way back to weekly instead of monthly, heh. w00t.

also, i looked back at the last newsletter and it didn’t feel as personal and i’d like it to so this time around i’ll share a few more thoughts that are a lil more personally reflective.

it’s fall, yall. fall is my least favorite season. the seasons rank for me: summer, spring, winter, fall. fall is hard for me for many reasons. it’s a season of transition, just like spring. and transitions are always hard, including when they last entire seasons. but with spring, at least things are getting more pleasant. with fall, you’re headed towards winter. as much as i don’t being cold, i have grown to appreciate the inwardness winter can bring. but getting there is hard. many living beings are dying or going into hibernation; the days are shrinking; and (as a friend pointed out to me) even though the natural energy of the season is slowing down, many parts of human life are speeding up: school starts, people start trying to squeeze in all the work they haven’t done yet for the year, etc. i’m having a tough time with it (as i do almost every year), but alas, it is what is is. hopefully i’m learning how to do it better year after year…

one more personal thought: i traveled all over new england this summer, it was super lovely, and i was ready to slow down in fall. in mid-october i said i was excited to slow down until holiday times. well, that commitment has held up like a lead balloon. the very next week, my grandma passed and i flew to florida for her funeral. and every week since then friends have visited from out of town. it has been an EXCELLENT gift to have so many folks come visit and i don’t have a single ounce of regret or frustration towards them. it has been extra great to see folks without having to go all over the place and i am fully present with each of them as if they were the only people that had visited this month. but slowing down is not at all what has happened. and tomorrow i fly to florida for a week (seeing dad and extended fam for thankstaking) and i’ll do the same in dec (to see mom and bro and extended fam for christmas). i guess i share all that to ask: are other people also noticing this uptick in visitors as vaccination becomes more common? are we arriving at our new normal?

ok ok ok! now just three lil things that i want to highlight:

alright that’s it. on to the things!

(!!) pick of the pack


writing

some things i’ve written since the last newsletter:

quotes

there is nothing new under the sun…

The art of war teaches us to rely not on the likelihood of the enemy’s not coming, but on our own readiness to receive him; not on the chance of his not attacking, but rather on the fact that we have made our position unassailable. — Sun Tzu

Trauma always creates a ripple effect, the same as when someone throws a stone into a still pond. The initial impact creates repercussions that expand almost infinitely, reaching and having an effect on many people who didn’t experience the blows firsthand. The shockwaves soon move beyond individual caregivers to influence the organizations and systems in which we work and, ultimately, the society as a whole. The harms of trauma exposure response radiate in this way, but so do the benefits of trauma stewardship.Laura Van Dernoot Lipsky & Connie Burk

I try to get children to internalize discipline, so we don’t have to tell them what not to do. — Adelaide L. Sanford

What makes a people indigenous? Indigenous people believe they belong to the land, and non-indigenous people believe the land belongs to them. — Derek Rasmussen

It’s better to be alone than to spend time with toxic people.
It’s better to do nothing than to work on something that doesn’t matter.
It’s better to rest than to climb the wrong mountain.
— James Clear

Nearly everything in life is unfavorable once it grows to a certain size.
It is entirely possible to have too many clients, too much work, too much fame, too much free time, and so on.
Pay attention to when the thing you’re chasing exceeds its usefulness.
— James Clear

To the most trivial actions, attach the devotion and mindfulness of a hundred monks. To matters of life and death, attach a sense of humor. — Zhuangzi

poetry

some keep the sabbath going to church - by emily dickinson

reads

some things i’ve read since the last newsletter:

listens

some audio and/or podcasts i’ve listened to since the last newsletter (so many good listens this round):

watches

some videos i watched since the last newsletter:

jams

some things i’ve been (aurally) enjoying since the last newsletter:

  • peppers and onions — tierra whack (!!)

  • high risk travel — cautious clay

  • sandstorm — mereba

  • no chill — duckwrth

jobs

upcoming events

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$$ (fun-raising)

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other opportunities

right now i’m learning…

(one person’s perspective on) what zen has to offer christianity.

mood