lqb2weekly #154 (21 may 2021)


i’m keeping this opening passage this newsletter v short in order to make space for a shitton of quotes. if they’re overwhelming, just scroll right on past ‘em. ^_^

also, the final three episodes of life radio for season 2 are out, but i’ll drip them over the next couple newsletters, hoping that you will listen to them all :D — Season 2 Episode 07: Innovation with Felicia Perez

on to the things!

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some things i’ve written since the last newsletter:


there is nothing new under the sun…

You can have it all. Just not all at once. — Oprah Winfrey

When I dare to be powerful, to use my strength in the service of my vision, then it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid. — Audre Lorde

Listening in dialogue is listening more to meaning than to words… In true listening, we reach behind the words, see through them, to find the person who is being revealed. Listening is a search to find the treasure of the true person as revealed verbally and nonverbally. There is the semantic problem, of course. The words bear a different connotation for you than they do for me. Consequently, I can never tell you what you said, but only what I heard. I will have to rephrase what you have said, and check it out with you to make sure that what left your mind and heart arrived in my mind and heart intact and without distortion. — john powell

Now the other myth that gets around is the idea that legislation cannot really solve the problem and that it has no great role to play in this period of social change because you’ve got to change the heart and you can’t change the heart through legislation. You can’t legislate morals. The job must be done through education and religion.
Well, there’s half-truth involved here.
Certainly, if the problem is to be solved then in the final sense, hearts must be changed. Religion and education must play a great role in changing the heart.
But we must go on to say that while it may be true that morality cannot be legislated, behavior can be regulated.
It may be true that the law cannot change the heart but it can restrain the heartless.
It may be true that the law cannot make a man love me but it can keep him from lynching me and I think that is pretty important, also.
So there is a need for executive orders. There is a need for judicial decrees. There is a need for civil rights legislation on the local scale within states and on the national scale from the federal government.
— Martin Luther King Jr'.’s address at Western Michigan University

The ultimate touchstone of friendship is not improvement, neither of the other nor of the self, the ultimate touchstone is witness … to have walked with them and to have believed in them, and sometimes just to have accompanied them for however brief a span, on a journey impossible to accomplish alone. — David Whyte on friendship

If I need things to be a certain way, I’m held hostage by them. — Jonny Wilkinson on maintaining a mindset of flexibility

I try to pull the language into such a sharpness that it jumps off the page. It must look easy, but it takes me forever to get it to look so easy. Of course, there are those critics — New York critics as a rule — who say, Well, Maya Angelou has a new book out and of course it’s good but then she’s a natural writer. Those are the ones I want to grab by the throat and wrestle to the floor because it takes me forever to get it to sing. I work at the language. — Maya Angelou on how hard it is to make it look easy

The most reliable way to change your life is by not changing your entire life.
If you try to change everything all at once, you will quickly find yourself pulled back into the same patterns as before. But if you merely focus on changing one specific habit and work on it until it becomes part of your normal day, you will find your life changes naturally as a side effect.
Improve the whole by mastering one thing.
— James Clear

“How did you accomplish that?”
“Same as everything else. Gradually, then all at once.”
— James Clear

Books for mindset.
Quiet time to think for strategy.
Conversations with successful peers for tactics.
— James Clear

The best index to a person’s character is (a) how he treats people who can’t do him any good, and (b) how he treats people who can’t fight back. — Abigail Van Buren on character


love after love by derek walcott


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right now i’m learning…

how to be a liberatory coach! the 9 month training program i’m in started today, woot.

i‘m also learning, after taking the art of leadership training at the rockwood institute, that i have HELLA blindspots in my leadership. but now i know and can be working on them. ^_^