lqb2weekly #151 (11 apr 2021)


i actually have a lot to say right now but this weekend has been full and i’m just gonna share a few things up here and get to the rest of the things:

  • this current phase of pandemia is weird. tbh, i’m not ready to go back to life as it was before. and i feel some concern that, in typical american fashion, collectively we are just charging forward without much real reflection. what did we learn about ourselves in this pandemic? what do we want to release from the before times? what do we, mindfully, want to pick back up? how are we navigating boundaries in mixed-vaccine status pods? there’s so much more… an elder/friend (hi LJ) reminded me that the roaring twenties came after the 1918 pandemic. noticing, noticing…

  • here’s a hilarious joke from my uncle’s family email forwards:

One of the British National daily newspapers asked readers: “What does it mean to be British?” Some of the emails were hilarious but this one from a Swiss was a winner.

“Being British is about driving in a German car to an Irish pub for a Belgian beer. Then traveling home, grabbing an Indian Curry or a Turkish kebab on the way, to sit on Swedish furniture and watch American shows on a Japanese TV. He buys a holiday in Spain, skies in France, fancies Swedish birds and has a Romanian au-pair.

And the most British thing of all? He is suspicious of anything foreign.”

ok. phew. that was longer than i anticipated.

on to the things!

(!!) pick of the pack



there is nothing new under the sun…

The more I write about something, the more simple and clear and accessible I get. It’s a process. — Xanthe Matychak

Italy is known for tomatoes. Thailand for chilies. Germany for sauerkraut.
But tomatoes originated in Peru. Thailand imported chilies from Central America. Sauerkraut started in China.
Everything is a remix—and the world is better for it. Share what you know. Learn from others. —
James Clear

When people hesitate to give honest feedback on an idea, draft, or performance, I ask for a 0-10 score.
No one ever says 10. Then I ask how I can get closer to a 10.
It motivates them to start coaching me – and motivates me to be coachable. I want to learn how to close the gap. —
Adam Grant

It’s almost always better to learn from peers who are 2 years ahead of you than mentors who are 20 years ahead of you.
Life evolves and most insights get outdated.
— James Clear

The biggest fear most of us have with learning to say no is that we will miss an opportunity. An opportunity that would have catapulted us to success, or that will never come again. And most of the time, that simply isn’t true.
I’ve found that the first part of learning to say no is learning to accept that offers and opportunities are merely an indication that you’re on the right path—not that you’ve arrived at a final destination you can never find again.
If someone is choosing you, it means you’re doing something right. And that is the biggest opportunity you can receive—the chance to recognize that your hard work is paying off. And if you continue to do good work, those opportunities will continue—and improve—over time.
— Grace Bonney


some things i’ve written since the last newsletter:


some audio and/or podcasts i’ve listened to since the last newsletter:


some videos i watched since the last newsletter:


some things i’ve been (aurally) enjoying since the last newsletter:

  • do you go up — khai


  • give it half a chance — kenny loggins


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right now i’m learning…

a shitton from alice miller’s “the drama of the gifted child.” one quote:

“Depression consists of a denial of one’s own emotional reactions. This denial begins in the service of an absolutely essential adaptation during childhood and indicates a very early injury. There are many children who have not been free, right from the beginning, to experience the very simplest of feelings, such as discontent, anger, rage, pain, even hunger – and, of course, enjoyment of their own bodies.”